Category: Miscellaneous

Jul 05

An Amazing Story of the First Survivor I Ever Knew

        “There is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” Christopher Robin to Winnie‑the‑Pooh in Pooh’s Most Grand Adventure I love these words of encouragement from one best friend to another. They were the sentiment of a life-changing pep talk given to me …

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Jun 28

Do You Need a Good Cry?

        You can beat this. Think positive. You can do it. Stay positive. I know people mean well when they say those things to people facing serious tough times, but I must admit they often rub me the wrong way. Many caring people uttered those kinds of “encouraging” phrases to me after …

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Jun 21

The Language of Cancer and the Language of God

          Tumor markers. Monoclonal antibodies. Angiogenesis inhibitors. Stereotactic radiation. MediPort. Neutropenia. Micrometastases…So how are you doing with learning the cancer vocabulary? Or how about the alphabet soup of acronyms? CEA, PSA, KRAS, ER/PR, Her-2/neu, VEGF, and BRCA just to name a few. Yikes! Someone please get me an interpreter or at least …

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Jun 07

Yes, there IS life after cancer!

        This past Sunday was National Cancer Survivor’s Day— a holiday to celebrate survivors and remind them and their caregivers that there really is life after a cancer diagnosis. So when do you know that you or your loved one is a cancer survivor? When the scan comes back clear? When the …

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May 31

Are You Wearing Out or Falling Apart?

O, Mr. Tentmaker (Author unknown)  It was nice living in this tent when it was strong and secure         and the sun was shining and the air was warm. But Mr. Tentmaker, it’s scary now. You see, my tent is acting like it’s not going to hold together;         the poles seem weak and they …

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May 24

Waiting for God to Answer Your Prayer

        Last week I wrote about finding the exact calm center in the middle of a hurricane—not just literally as my retired Air Force Major Jim Perkins knows well from his days on a weather reconnaissance team—but figuratively as we all face the storms of life. And the verse I suggested we …

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May 17

How to Fly into (and out of!) a Hurricane

          The more I talk with my cousin Jim about his days of flying with an Air Force weather reconnaissance team, the more I believe that the trials of life—cancer included—are a lot like flying into a hurricane…both require an inordinate amount of trusting. Jim agrees with my observation and says …

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May 10

When Your Prayers Aren’t Answered the Way You Hoped

        May is a tough month for me. It’s the month of mournful memories—difficult prayers which were not answered the way I hoped. A miscarriage at three months into my first pregnancy on May 8, 1977—Mother’s Day of all things. My father’s death on May 20, 2011, alone in his apartment except …

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May 03

“Some days you’re the pigeon & some days you’re the statue!”

        I appreciate that many of you have told me you really like the quotes I used as introductions to each chapter in my new book Peace in the Face of Cancer. I spent many, many hours researching fitting quotes and trying to find firsthand sources to confirm their attributions. But there …

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Apr 26

How to Be Good to Yourself so You Can Be Better for Someone Else

          So what’s the gauge reading on your emotional tank today? Getting low and searching for a fill-up? Half-empty and still draining? On fumes and slowly coasting downhill? I want to encourage caregivers today because the focus is so much on the patient that those standing by them often get forgotten. (If your’re …

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