Category: families

May 16

“You never really understand a person until you…climb into his skin and walk around in it.”

  This To Kill a Mockingbird snippet of advice comes from Harper Lee’s fictional character Atticus Finch, a white attorney defending a black man falsely accused of rape in a racist 1930s southern community. Finch is adamant that his own children learn to treat everyone with compassion, regardless of their outward differences and admonishes them to try to …

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Apr 25

Do you need a vacation from illness?

  Ever feel like you need a vacation from cancer, dementia, ALS, heart disease or whatever health trial you’re facing? You probably do—at least a mental one and maybe a physical one as well. Believe it or not the chemo room at Dr. Marc Hirsh’s office, where I worked as a patient advocate for nearly 20 …

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Apr 18

Who’s taking care of YOU?

  Do you know what to do if you’re on an airplane and there’s a sudden loss of cabin pressure? Scream? Pray? Scream prayers? All good suggestions, but if you had paid attention to the flight attendant before takeoff, you would know to “secure your own oxygen mask first before you help others.”  If you …

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Apr 04

“I refuse to be robbed of peace…”

  Have you ever met someone and been amazed at the JOY and PEACE exuding from that person? Did simply being in their presence make you feel better about yourself and your world? I’d like to introduce you to one of those kind of people: my friend, Bola Montoya Taylor. Bola was a Filipino jazz …

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Mar 07

Helping Kids Cope with Cancer and Celebrating One Boy’s CURE

  One of our church’s pastors, Matt, and his wife Carrie have been living in the shadow of cancer since December 2009, when their oldest child, Ian, was diagnosed with acute lymphocytic leukemia at the age of 3 ½ . Matt vividly recalls the moment the doctor gave them the diagnosis.  “Acute leukemia were not …

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Sep 06

Come sit in the E.R. with me

            These halls are quiet on a Sunday morning with only the sound of monitors to echo in the silence of large emergency room. Not this again. I am tired of this place. It’s been a while since I’ve stood here, and yet it comes right back as if it …

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Aug 16

Is Jesus REALLY Enough?

          My cancer diagnosis  in 1990 was especially upsetting to my husband because he had lost his first wife nearly 20 years before to ALS (Lou Gehrig’s disease) while they were still newlyweds. To watch me then face a life-threatening illness and an uncertain future was more than he felt he …

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Apr 26

How to Be Good to Yourself so You Can Be Better for Someone Else

          So what’s the gauge reading on your emotional tank today? Getting low and searching for a fill-up? Half-empty and still draining? On fumes and slowly coasting downhill? I want to encourage caregivers today because the focus is so much on the patient that those standing by them often get forgotten. (If your’re …

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Mar 15

Is Heaven on Your Mind?

        How much do you think about Heaven? A lot? A little? Not at all? Whether your earthly life is close to it’s end or you have many decades still in front of you, I hope your thoughts turn often to Heaven because that eternal perspective lifts the weariness we all face. One …

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Mar 08

A Boy, a Dad and Some Pizza

        My 4-year-old grandson Benjamin may look more like his mother, but he is a total Daddy’s boy—as in, the best time of day is when Daddy comes home and the worst time is when he leaves. So it wasn’t surprising when we were all at a local pizza buffet restaurant recently …

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