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Mar 23

Encouraging a Depressed Loved One

  The word “encourage” means to inspire or fill someone with courage, spirit or hope. But how in the world do you encourage someone who is depressed? To answer that difficult question, I’d like to share some thoughts from the book New Light on Depression by David Biebel, D.Min. and Harold Koenig, M.D. “Family members, loved …

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Mar 16

That’s Not Fair!

  Remember when you were a kid and indignantly informed your parents: “That’s not fair!” They probably responded with some important information for you: “Life’s not fair.” Their response only made you madder! Nobody who’s being treated unfairly wants to hear it. It’s a logical response to a heartfelt emotion. But the longer we live, …

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Mar 09

David vs. Goliath

  If you or your loved one is up again a particularly scary diagnosis, I encourage you to think of the shepherd boy David as he went into battle armed only with a slingshot and five pebbles to fight against the giant Goliath. Do you know what his battle cry was? He wasn’t like The …

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Mar 02

Do I Have to Go to Oz to Get Some Courage?

If someone had said to me in May 1990: “Next month you are going to be diagnosed with metastatic cancer, have major surgery, and then need a year of chemotherapy,” I would have responded: “No way! I cannot possibly go through that!” I am by nature a wimp. I bruise and scar easily. Loud noises …

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Feb 17

Telling Children about Cancer in the Family

I know what a great deal of courage it takes to talk to children about cancer in the family. When I was diagnosed, our daughters were 8, 10 and 12, and we wanted to protect them from cancer’s assault on me. So, we decided we would tell them I was going to have surgery, but …

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Feb 10

The Mind-Body Healing Connection

Isn’t it amazing the impact our thoughts can have on our bodies? I got chemo every Wednesday and that evening we would take our girls to Shoney’s Restaurant for supper because kids 12 and under (of which we had three!) were free. I was always pretty nauseous, so while my family enjoyed the buffet, I sipped …

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Feb 03

Top 10 Signs You’re Paranoid about Cancer

10. You have your oncologist’s number on speed dial. 9. Your oncologist’s secretary has put a call block on your phone number. 8. Ten years after your cancer treatment, your Mediport is still in place “just in case.” 7. You take a portable radon detector with you on vacation. 6. You include those little hemoccult test …

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Jan 27

The Mind, Heart & Soul of a Survivor

Dear friend, I wish you well on your — or your loved one’s– journey with cancer. I wish you a heart that has found the right attitude — a positive, realistic attitude. I wish you a mind that has found peace — by replacing worries with better thoughts and by focusing on the present and …

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